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Updated: Jul 28, 2021

When I was in seventh grade, my Social Studies teacher, Mr. Long, asked the class, “Does anyone know what heroin is?”

I confidently raised my hand.

“A female hero.”

I wasn’t wrong. I also wasn’t right.

I had heard, “Does anyone know what a heroine is?”

… a female hero.

Because I was so embarrassed, I have no recollection as to why he was asking us about drugs.

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Mar 31, 2021

I love that what came to you first was "a female hero" rather than the drug... much more inspiring! I wish Mr. Long had affirmed you at the time rather than allowing you to get hyper embarrassed. I never know when an embarrassing memory will suddenly hit me; I usually reprimand myself, "Why did you say that / do that?" as I feel the emotion kick in again. I hope we all are understanding more about the importance of defusing shame and covering one another...and ourselves with grace and kindness.

Jill Anthony
Jill Anthony
Apr 01, 2021
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I haven't read Daring Greatly yet, but it's on my list. I find that the more I read/understand about shame, the less it has a grip on me. That doesn't mean I don't experience it, but I can more easily identify it and understand what's happening, so I can have more grace for myself and others.

It's funny. When you mentioned me extending grace to Mr. Long, my first thought was, "Yeah, and it only took me 30 years to see his perspective!" Ha! My hope for myself is that I will shorten the amount of time it takes for me to find the grace!!

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